Random Thoughts
I'm not sure how pantyhose and tights became such a big part of my life, but they did. Oh I'm sure I have my ideas but I am not going to bore you with my thoughts as others have done such a wonderful job of chronicling their journey in some amazing blogs.The enjoyment of tights might be hard for a majority of women to understand as they are just part of their normal wardrobe and nothing special. This also is probably difficult for a majority of men to understand as well since tights are seen as feminine. However, there are numerous men, women, people out there who do get it and enjoy the feelings of the silky yarns on their legs and bodies and I am so grateful to those who have shared their comments and stories with me. Thank you my friends for confirming that I am not alone and maybe some day this enjoyment can be public without fear of being ridiculed and ostracized.
Yes, I am a guy and I love tights. Sometimes the tights consumed me and other times I tried to purge them from my existence. However, as I get older and hopefully wiser I have come to realize that I can't purge my thoughts and desires for tights completely and so I have come to accept my love of tights as just another aspect of my personality good or bad. Now I just strive to achieve some balance in my life. Like all good things in life such as food or wine, moderation is good. Excessiveness can be bad and so can denial, so my philosophy is moderation because life is too short. Of course I don't always practice what I preach, laughing...but I try :-)
I am straight and love my new wife dearly. She has been a new source of inspiration and brought balance back to my life. We share our passion for tights in the bedroom together, which has been liberating to share with my best friend. However, I must admit that I have been too afraid to share my crossdressing fetish with her just yet and some of my fantasies which includes bisexuality. Maybe some day, but there is no rush as I do love what we have already. I think fantasies are healthy for all of us to have. Fantasies should be fun and can be fun to dream about or talk about it. Some fantasies do come true and some don't and that is OK. Not all fantasies have to come true, but they still provide us with lots of entertainment. I think our brain is the biggest sex organ we have and we shouldn't be afraid to exercise it. Sometimes its those secret fantasies which bring us the biggest pleasure. As my new wife and I told each other when we first began dating not all sexual encounters have to end in orgasims just the act of making love (in all of its various forms from kissing, touching, rubbing, to licking, sucking and fucking) can be fun itself since we are enjoying each other. Something to remember as we all get older :-)
OK that was enough random thoughts. Don't worry I'll get back to posting more pictures and erotic stories soon. Thanks for reading and please feel free to share your comments. I love to hear from you.
Sweetpea, Hi huney ur thoughts r right on and I would like to thank U 4 b n my friend! As I always enjoy our chats U r always n our hearts,ur words mean so us! I 2 luv 2 slide n2 a pair of silky pantyhose and just b free 2walk around n my house my wife does this 2 we luv just wearing pantyhose&wife beaters and when we goto bed at night sometime we just hold each other and slide our legs up&down each others legs and drift off 2sleep! Then there r times we just cuddle up on the sofa and watch tv or a movie,its not always about sex! When ur wifes or girlfriends accept ur pantyhose fetish it goes 2show them that u can stil b a man! My wife just luvs it when im n my pantyhose and my meat&potatos r hanging out,tel's me I look sexy as all b! Like jaime told me n one of our chats tights were made 4men hundreds of yrs ago they wore'em daily and they were not made fun of! Yet n 2days world its not accepted by people! So I say piss on em pantyhose make my legs&feet feel good they help me make it through the day when im at work and I work in construction! So men just dont look at a pretty womans legs try a pair and enjoy the awsome feeling they hav on our legs and I bet u'll b hook'd! Sweetpea thank u so much BG luv ya ur sugar ray bear&girlfriend ginger hugs&kisses!
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing your comments Sugar Ray. Very happy to have friends like you and Ginger. XO Jaime
DeleteI think you have a very balanced and healthy perspective on your fetish, Jamie. And having an understanding wife is a super bonus. My belief is that the difficulty women would have with it are a) seeing their man as being feminized (and threatened by this), and b) fear that the fetish is a higher priority. Reassuring one's partner that they are the top priority is key. And downplaying the interest is another.
ReplyDeleteThe best way I've found to approach it is to wear a good solid opaque pair of tights under trousers, then let them see you disrobe. "What are you wearing??!!" "Oh, heh... just a pair of tights, for a little warmth without the bulk." "Ummm, why don't you just wear long johns?" "Tried that and they're too bulky. It may look weird, but actually tights are being made for men these days."
I've dated some women who couldn't get beyond this. "Too weird" or "you're secretly gay" was the instant conclusion that they couldn't be budged from. But others were OK with it, once they got over the unusual encounter. The only problem was when jumping to the next level of confession, that it's also a fetish. So far I've confessed this twice, once with "success" and once with failure (relationship ended). In a way, it's kind of a personality litmus test. If someone can't understand it or even leave open the chance to try understanding it, then this telegraphs how they'll be in other circumstances. Best to avoid them altogether!
Thank you for the insightful comment Nyle!
ReplyDeleteI think most women have difficulty accepting a man's love of pantyhose/tights. Case in point is my first wife, aka the ex-wife. I tried to discuss my love of pantyhose with her before both before we were married and after we were married. Each time brought about the same comments and distrust. At first I got the typical "are you gay?" comments, which is an immature response but we were young and dumb anyway. But in the end, I know she felt threatened. She assumed that she wasn't sexy enough or attractive enough or not woman enough and that the pantyhose were a replacement to her. That was never the case, but no amount of words or actions on my part could ever erase her feelings of inadequacy. Eventually this was the straw that broke the camel's back, but there were also a myriad of other problems though I tend to think a lot of them probably stemmed from the fetish and the hiding it brought about and my resent and seeking of acceptance.
Looking back I think it truly takes a woman who is confident in herself to be able to be with a man who loves pantyhose/tights. The woman is confident in herself and thus is able to have confidence in her man to experiment. This also requires a level of trust between the woman and man. In addition, it requires open communication among all parties. I think if you have these ingredients (a confident woman, trust and open communication) then anything is possible including sharing your pantyhose fetish. The topic can be broached successfully regardless of method if you have those ingredients. However, I would still caution to have moderation in your fetish. Once you finally find acceptance you still need to make your woman feel loved and wanted and not feel threatened by the fetish, hence moderation. All things in moderation can be wonderful, but we tend to get in trouble when we always want more (that is human nature in general).
I hope everyone can find their happiness in their journey.